Engaged? How to nail your "Save The Date".

Congrats! You’re engaged. Now what? Time to get your friends & family in the loop.
First step: Send Save-The-Date cards to your guests. It’s the pre-invite card that announces your wedding date & venue, as well as lets guests know that they’ll be invited to the celebration.
Here’s a simple guide to help you nail save-the-date etiquette, plus check out some of my favorite Save-The-Date designs to inspire you.
Do we have to send out Save-The-Date cards?If you’re having a destination wedding, then sending a Save-The-Date is an expected courtesy, since many of your guests will have to make travel & hotel arrangements. Even if you’re getting married in your home town, Save-The_Dates are a fun way to give your guests a heads up about the wedding. Plus, chances are it’ll increase your guests chances of attending.
When do we send them out?In general, it’s a good idea to mail them 4 to 6 months before your wedding, or even earlier (8 months ahead of time) if you’re planning a destination wedding that requires more extensive travel planning.
Who gets one?Only send your Save-The-Date to those you’re planning on inviting to the wedding. Even if you’ve already gotten verbal confirmation from certain guests, you’ll still need to send them a Save-The-Date (that includes bridesmaids, siblings, parents, etc.). However, once they’re in the mail, there’s no turning back, so lock down that guest list first before mailing them out so you don’t over invite. They should only go to those you definitely want in attendance.
What information should we include?Give your guests any details that will help them plan for your big day: the wedding date, location, your wedding website URL (where they can find additional information), etc.
Can we send them via email?These days, it’s perfectly appropriate to send your Save-The-Date announcement via email. Just be aware there may be a few bumps along the road: Your e-card may get filtered into your guests’ spam folder, or maybe the email address you have is one they no longer check. Some of your guests may not even have email (grandparents), so you will need to spread the word some other way. So in other words, delivery is not always 100 percent guaranteed. Also, there’s the tangibility factor: Mailing a paper Save-The-Date, guests will probably pin it up somewhere in their home or office, to serve as a reminder of the wedding to come. Another thing to consider is the formality of your wedding. One function of the Save-The-Date is to give your guests a sneak peek of the wedding to come. The more formal the wedding, the more likely a printed card will set the tone you want your wedding to have.
My favorite ways to Save-The-Date:
Save-the-Date Photo Card- I’m partial to this one! 😉

Use your favorite shot from your Engagement photos. This is a great way to personalize your Save-The-Date & give your guests a feel for what to expect at your wedding (will it be casual, rustic, elegant, etc.). Print it on a full-bleed photo-card design to really show it off. (custom save-the-date cards available starting at $169 for 100)
Save-the-Date Card

Keep things simple by mailing an elegant & straightforward card including all pertinent wedding information: your names, wedding date, location & an indication that the official invitation will be coming in the mail. (Save-The-Date download,TheBrumbyNestEtsy store)
Printable Save-the-Date Calendar Card

Save money on Save-The-Date cards by downloading these FREE calendar-style printables. Print ’em out on card stock, fill in your names, the month, & circle your wedding date. (Calendar save-the-date, Free download,Bells & Whistles)
Destination Wedding Save-the-Dates

Get your guests excited about your destination wedding with these leather luggage-tag save-the-dates – they are so chic and will definitely compel everyone to pack their bags & book a flight. (Luggage-tag save-the-date,LoveTravelsFavorsEtsy store)
DIY Save-the-Dates

Like a good DIY project? Get a custom rubber stamp with all of your wedding details and stamp the Save-The-Date information onto manila shipping tags for a vintage-inspired look. (Save-the-date design,HelloWorldStampsEtsy store)
So, how will you Save-The-Date?

Capturing the firsts…

I know it’s crazy, but my nearly 5 year old son just had his very first haircut! I know you’re dying to know how crazy I went over it, but first let me tell you a little about why it took us almost 5 years to cut his hair.

When our son LJ was born he was nearly bald, which I was not expecting because I had experienced a good amount of heartburn while pregnant (old wives tale). Anyway, he had very fine slightly wavy hair until he was about 18 months old, at which point super thick very tight curls came in almost overnight!
Everyone loved LJ’s curls, no one more than we did though. He’s an adorable kid & those curls just made him that much cuter! My husband & I said we weren’t going to cut his hair until he decided that he wanted it cut… until now he never did.
There were a couple other factors. First, I was afraid that the texture of his hair would change if we were to cut it. He has very soft smooth hair, like mine, & I really didn’t want that to change. I saw my nephew go from having nice textured hair to very thin & nappy so I was scared the same would happen to LJ. So far so good…
The second reason for not wanting it cut is that I didn’t want him to regret it. When I was a little girl, I had hair past my waist & chose to cut it short… BIG mistake! I loved it for about 24 hours & then I hated it & was growing it back out! Also so far so good…
A couple months ago started saying he wanted a haircut because the other boys in his class were getting haircuts. He would flip flop between wanting one & not so we just kept the conversation going. Then few weeks ago he was really adamant about wanting it cut, so I said “okay, lets find a style you like.” After going through Pinterest we found a few he liked & then narrowed it down to 1.
Being that it was the holidays, I was a little short on cash & time, which bought us a couple more days to mull it over. Gramma (my mom) was also coming into town for Christmas & really wanted to be there, so we made it a Christmas Eve event. We all headed to my husbands barber & patiently waited for LJ’s turn.

It was time… I was a wreck! I’m telling you my stomach was in knots, I was a ball of nerves! LJ on the other hand was estatic! He was so ready! He jumped right into the chair without hesitation. No fear!

The ponytail was gathered (of course I forgot a rubber band to tie it with), a plastic baggy was on standby to keep his hair in & Rob (our barber) was ready to start cutting!

I must be honest, I think the only reason I didn’t start balling at this point was because I was focused on getting great pictures so we could remember this event forever (momtog problems). LJ just sat there perfectly still as his long locks were cut short. I was so impressed that he was so calm. For most kids the first haircut is a kinda scary event.

It’s funny because even after Rob cut like 5 inches off it was still really long! I kinda liked the mini-fro, but it wouldn’t last long! It was time to cut it down more & start shaping it…

I made sure to keep those perfect curls from the back of his head, I will really miss playing with those as he sleeps next to me!

He was so happy watching it all fall to the floor!

It was really starting to look cool, he looked like a totally different kid! I really kept looking at him like “who are you?”

LJ’s little brother Levon found himself a nice spot to sit back and relax… this kid is too funny! That sweatshirt is so perfect for his personality!

Now here’s the part where LJ started to wiggle. The edge up “bites” a bit so he was having a hard time staying still, He really did do a good job though.

Look at those curls!

It was done! Just a little dust off & it was time for the BIG reveal…

He saw that mirror & just lit up! There had been a few tears from the edge up, but as soon as he saw his “new do” he was nothing but smiles!!! He’s was like “I have a haircut, I look so cool!” Indeed, he looks pretty cool with his new hairstyle! I’ll miss those long curls, but I do like the new do! He looks more grown up & won’t be mistaken for a girls anymore. I never understood how that happened, long hair does NOT = girl!

Just look at that handsome kid… that’s our boy & we’re so proud of him!
So often I miss capturing my own family memories because I want to be involved & not stuck behind the camera, but this time it was to my benefit (& sanity) that I capture this major life event!